1 Corinthians 12:7, 18-19: But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good... But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired. If they were all one member, where would the body be?
God designed each of us for a particular purpose and He specifically gifted us to perform that purpose "for the common good". Yet we often want to choose our own design for our children and ourselves. Unfortunately that choice typically includes qualities and characteristics that are honored and esteemed by the world's system. That's not the way God works. God is the architect, and He knows how the pieces fit together.
Don't you think it would be more rewarding to submit to God's design and walk in His will than to struggle to be something you were not designed to be? "All are not apostles, are they?" (1 Cor 12:29).
Try a spiritual gifts inventory with your family. Then work together on ways to use those gifts "for the common good."